The After Party

You guys really lucked up. Instead of me waking at 3 and reading, I couldn’t get to sleep to begin with. Also, luck is on your side because I really had no intention of writing anything since some wonderful person commented that Tuesday’s ramble was like several posts in one. But again, I’m up so whatever. This past weekend, for the very first time in my life, I made a go at watching Gone with the Wind. To say it was painful would be an understatement. So no, I didn’t watch it all. Aside from the high pitched voice of the main character and the over-acting, I noticed how the guys went into war. It seemed as if it was not only a noble thing, but from where they stood, the right thing to do. I’m figuring this was because they believed so strongly in their way of life that losing or dying in the war never even crossed their minds. That, or it’s true that white men just love a good war. (hee-hee) (more…)

Ed. Note: I’m tired and too busy working to write. Plus, I figure it’s right before the holiday so most folks aren’t reading. I dug this up because someone mentioned men dating women with kids in the comments section yesterday. If I don’t write anything on Wednesday, have a happy and safe Thanksgiving or whatever you celebrate.

I so enjoy poking fun at present day slang. Apparently, shortie means baby. I gathered this from context clues. So if I’m using it incorrectly, let a lady know.

Why do educated men have issues dating women with a kid or two?? Back in the day, when I was with F, and I know most don’t know who F is, I remember him telling his friend, “Get you a chick with a kid. Maybe she’ll be a 5. You don’t have to take her anywhere. Just bring movies over, play with the kid a little and she’ll be happy…You can chill at her house when you don’t want to be with the folks. Plus you don’t ever have to worry about her sneaking up on you in the club cus women with kids can’t just up and go like other women can. Baby-sitters don’t grow on trees.” This friend was newly out of graduate school and living with his parents until he got on his feet. (more…)

“Hey. Come take a run with me.” “Can we switch cars? I got a run to make and I don’t want to use my car.” “Do you still have that rental? Well come drive me somewhere. I’ll pay for the gas.” Whenever a friend or associate says any of these things, nothing good can come of it. Every single time I’ve heard those words, some broad was pissed about some man. In a fit or rage or due to calculated planning, she had to go on a fact finding mission. She wanted to do it without being discovered. What better way to do it that in someone else’s ride. I believe 98% of the time, the woman already knew how things were going to end.

With me being all single and what not, I’ve met a good deal of menfolk. In the couple months there were two that went down in an entertaining blaze of glory. Thanks to the wonder of the three degrees of seperation that exists in the Black community, I found out one was married and the other lied about his name and where he worked. I would have never even been suspecious but there were a few yellow flags early that I refused to ignore. Plus, I had an uneasy feeling about them both. (more…)

Ed. Note: Some of y’all who never write but always comment, read THIS and do a post on it. I’ve got my thoughts but I’d rather someone else do the typing.

A couple weeks ago, Peach offered the following topic:

White folks acting black. Black folks who act white. why is it when a white person is acting ignorant, wearing gold teeth, talking in ebonics and listening to rap, and hanging out with only black ppl they are acting black. Yet if I black person were educated, played tennis, and listened to classical music, hung out with white folks at country clubs, they are acting white?? Even a black person would say that a white person is acting black when they act ignorant. But that is implying that all black ppl are ignorant and all white ppl are educated. DONT U THINK THAT IS FUCKED UP? (well im sure you do, but you know what i mean)

I’m going to write it from the perspective that acting Black stems from music generally done by Blacks and the behaviors that have been associated with that music. M’Kay? (more…)

A week or so ago when I was pressed for topics, Strangejazz, the newly engaged blogger, asked how much should people spend on their wedding. In my adult life I have been to many and been in four. I pledge that the next one will be mine and I’m making at least three of those broads be in it. Before I get to the question of how much, lemme ask this: How long is too long to be engaged?? My mother has always said you don’t need to be engaged for years. If you are, you’re either planning an event you can’t afford or someone doesn’t really want to get married. As I get older, I’m starting to kind of believe her. I also am now of the mindset that men should not ask women to marry them unless they are willing to go right then and get married. (more…)