The After Party

Quick Rant (Inspired by my girl K who called me midday yesterday with a similar rant): You ever meet someone who sincerely believes that whatever they do, they are the first to have done it?? they are the first to ever perch themselves on a toilet and relieve themselves. They are the first to run a comb through their heads. And when they get older, they are the first to strut across Howard’s campus at high noon?? Or they are the first to ever have a wedding. And gawd forbid they have a kid. They give birth to the second coming of Christ. For the most part, I don’t fool with people’s kids. At least their first one. Because by the second one, they’ve wised up and realize that most women of child bearing age can have a baby or ten. But what’s impressive is turning that baby into a responsible, contributing member of society. We don’t know the results of your child rearing until far down the line. Soooo, don’t go expecting the world the stop drop and roll, just because you pushed a kid from your twat. Another thing, every baby isn’t smart. Very few are. They are all basically normal. If your two year old can program the TiVo, did it ever occur to you that the reason there is no documentation of you doing the same thing as a child is because TiVo didn’t exist?! And dumb ass, if you knew anything about child development, you’d know litte Casey isn’t a geneous because she went from laying on her back to walking–skipping crawling all together. Did your ass know that kids who do not crawl have greater difficulty with reading? (more…)

I’m going to write until I run out of topics or my fingers get tired or the wine makes me sleepy or something good comes on TV. Prenumptual agreements–good or bad? I neve really thought too deeply about it because I generally date men with more than me. If anything it would be them bringing it up. And I doubt they’d do that because I am worthy of trust. I even look trust worthy. Why else would people be so nice to me?

Birth control? How young is too young?? Do you just one day notice your thirteen year old daughter has an extra bit of sway in her hips then make a doctors appointment? If you put her on them, do you check to make sure she’s taking them? Do you ask her if she’s having sex first and trust she’s telling you the truth? Kids are huge liars and their stupid too. Nobody reading this told their parents everything. And everyone reading this was a dumb ass kid. Some are still dumb ass adults–hopefully smarter than you were when you were younger. What about your son’s girlfriend? Do you mention birth control to her? Surely you’ll talk to your son but what about someone else’s child? Especially if that child has the potential of falling into the ‘it won’t happen to me’ box with your child. (more…)

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Anyone ever watch that show Brothers & Sisters? I love it. As I wait for my dinner to finish cooking I’m watching it. For those that don’t know, the quick and dirty is that this perfectly imperfect family patriarch dies. He has a business he’s worked hard to build. After he dies, his family finds out he has a mistress. He had her for 20 years. They also find out that the business is in trouble. But like any good drama, they find a way out. They find a trust with some land their father had bought and left to them. At the time it was nearly worthless but now they have the opportunity to sell the land, use the money to save the business and maybe even have some left over. Also, right around the time they found out about the land, they also found out their dad had purchased his mistress a house and fathered a child with her. There was a big hub-bub about it but they decided to let her keep the house. Not sure if she bought it or they gave it to her. AND, through some twist of assholery, the matriarch of the family invited the mistress to an event and the heffa showed up! (more…)

This evening, I had a lot of time between when I left and work my hair appointment. In an effort to waste a little bit of time and kill two birds with one stone, I decided I’d stop over at the Whole Foods and pick up some things. Normally, I just go to the Safeway near me. But my salon is in DC not far from Whole Foods. I buy boneless, skinless chicken breast. I usually have one fish and steak/roast weekly. Those things aren’t the cheapest things in the store. I mostly get fresh vegetables, herbs, and fruits too. Here I was walking around picking up organic versions of all the stuff I normally get. But when I checked out, the bill was way more than it would have been at a ‘regular’ store. And it hit me. It’s expensive to eat right. Even at a ‘regular’ store the foods I buy cost way more than other fattier foods. But me going organic really affected my bill. (more…)

Warning: This is not a Panama length post. So if you intend to drink your whole mug of morning coffee while reading, you’ll be disappointed to find that two sips into your coffee you’ll be done reading this.

Ed. Note: Learn more about the Healthy Marriage Initiative HERE.

By now, most of you should have gotten your online link to Black Enterprise. Right? Oh please don’t act like I’m the only one. Anyhow, has anyone read the article about marriage and poverty in the Black community? You haven’t? Well here’s the link. Go ahead and read it. It’s an easy read. In short, a paralell is drawn between marriage, or the lack of it, and poverty in the Black community. It’s mentioned that with this connection being documented, incientives should be given to Blacks who do marry. The article opens with the following: (more…)

I first wrote this December of last year and remembered it when I read something on Keisha’s blog about some dude tryna get into her house. Humh!! I had to dig this out of the archives. Plus, I had nothing to write. Oh and notice I even included the original comments for your enjoyment. Feel the love!

My girl, the missing Nikilovely once said, “You don’t sleep with a man who you wouldn’t leave in your home unsupervised.” All you broads who are screwing every man who shows you the slightest piece of attention, I want you to think on that. You don’t trust him in your home with your electronics, but you trust him in your bed?? In your twat?? In your throat?? I’m not saying everyone we trust is worthy, but damn. At least make an effort to weed out the obviously untrustable mofos! And don’t give me that BS about you needing to get your freak on. I have recently discovered that all too often, the ‘my twat is hot’ rational is code for, “I’m lonely and desperate for attention.” (more…)

I’ve pretty much worked around women for most of my career. I’ve not liked the people I’ve worked with and made special effort to work when I’m at work. I didn’t care about anyone’s kids, their damned dog, etc. I already had friends for Pete’s sake. I’d go to meetings and the first 15 mibutes would be wasted on people’s personal stuff. this would contribute to me not liking the jobs or getting bored with it. However, I figured I could just get along doing my work and all would be well. Unfortunately, it made me appear standoffish in the work place. Funny thing is if there was cause for me to get to know someone, and I decided I liked her/him, then we could casually speak at work about not-strictly-work-related stuff. (more…)